Baby or Bust!

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butterflyjones

Baby or Bust!

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I have been married for nearing five years but my husband and I have been together for more than 10 years. In all that time, we've never had a child. He has no children from a "previous relationship" and neither do I. A lot people ask us, "Why don't you have kids?" "Are you trying?" "Do you want the name of my doctor?" Most times I just brush these questions off because a) it's no one's business and b) it's no one's business.

For the most part, my husband and I agree that we want to have children -- someday. But that day hasn't come around and it's not until tax season that we really start to think, "Hey, maybe we should have a baby!" The main reason being that we wouldn't have to pay so much in taxes. Well, not that we wouldn't have to pay but at least there'd be some sort of discount. I mean, I have friends who get back $3,000 or more and I'm like, "Whoa! That's a lot of spare change!" At least to a couple with no kids. Sure, my friends with kids have to pay fees for daycare and there's all those school fundraisers and extracurricular activities but at the end of the day, there's so many discounts for kids and people with kids. I mean, kids 12 and under eat free! Kids under 30" ride free! All that kind of stuff. And not to minimize the hardships with kids--ear infections, broken legs, detentions, etc. but I can't help but feel that by April 15, my husband and I have missed out on something. Hmmm...

I guess the grass is always greener. I mean, even though I'd probably be eligible for some serious tax deductions, I can't help but be grateful about the fact that my husband and I can plan our weekends without the thought of getting a sitter (at reasonable rates) or that we can leave home late from work and not argue over who's turn it is to pick up "your child." Maybe someone else is saying, "Kwityerbitchin! You've got it made! No going to bed late. No emergency hospital visits. No parenting advice from everyone including God and his mother...Geez!" My how green the grass!

So, even though we will file our taxes for a household of two (no dependents), I can't wait until we do have a kid because then our status changes--married with dependents. Smiley