You may not want to hear my opinion on this, because its not what most people would want to hear. But I dont think its fair to you if you wait around for her. You are going to get hurt in the end, and she may just become accustomed to having you there for her, to catch her each and every time she falls. In the end its going to wear you down and you could very well lose out on other good things coming your way. It sounds like it would be all your energy and effort and none of hers, and thats not fair. Its not right.

 

If it were me, I would tell her to call me when and if she were ready to start something, whether it be a REAL friendship and not one where she uses you (which I can see happening just from this one blog post) or a REAL relationship. However, I would need to know that she wasnt being with me to make her ex jealous or because she wanted someone and I just happened to be the one hanging around.

 

I hope things work out. And if you wanna talk, Im here!

Thanks for your advice. I will definitely consider it. I am just taking what happens with us one day at a time. I know that she would not use me to make her ex jealous though. I do know that much about her already. And she has told me that she wants me to do what makes me happy in this whole situation. I honestly don't think I could be completely without her in my life right now. Because, I too am going through a lot of changes in my life. She is very supportive with my situations. So, I guess I will wait this one out and see what happens. You are probably right though. It probably will weigh me down. I don't know what God has in store for me.