Fresh out of an unfitful sleep.

For I have been dreaming of boyfriends past... for the fourth night in a row.

Every night, I have seen a different ex boyfriend.

Some stay to hold me and talk, others see me and turn away.

What is it that connects people with those that they have cared for in the past? And why do some people think that it's better to walk away, to not be friends?

It seems to me that after giving a a chunk of your life to someone, that you would want to hear from them, see them from time to time. When did the phrase "let's just be friends" become so unattractive?

 
   

 


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karamac on
Re: Ghosts of boyfriends past
Mm...I agree.
WOOKIEBANTER on
Re: Ghosts of boyfriends past
oddly enough I have had similer dreams.  which led me tothe realization that i have dated  a fair share of women.,   lol. i somewhat understand your point but sometimes things end in a way where it can turn what was once intense attraction to udder disgust.   its varies i suppose from one situation to the next.  
brandybear on
Re: Ghosts of boyfriends past
disgust? really? I don't always like my exes (especially immedietely after a break up) but disgust seems like such a strong word. When I talk or think about someone from my past, it's usually in a good light. (Or if not, I will throw in the obligatory "but he's a good person"

I've just always figured that if I date someone, or really love or care about them, there had to be wonderful qualities in them that I was blind to at the time of the break up. I always try to remember the good, not the bad.

(And I can practically hear you laughing in disbelief, so stop it)

erinbear on
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Yeah, I agree with you there Brandy.  Even with Tommy, which was a disaster culminated entirely by the fact that I wouldn't listen to my intuition, I still try and remember the fun we had and stuff.  And that he was a sweet person somewhere in there.  Never been disgusted by an ex ever.  Even though I have nothing in common with some of them now, I can appreciate that at that moment in my life, I needed something that they had.   But maybe girls are easily disgusting?
motionlesswheel on
Re: Ghosts of boyfriends past
I'm definitely guilty.  Out of the serious relationships I've had, or hell, any relationship, I'm not still in touch with any of them.  I chose to just break it off out of hurt and anger.  Once I worked through that, I always hoped I'd be stable enough to become friends, but, for one reason or another, was just never able to establish friendships.  Maybe it was just too awkward or we were afraid we'd fall back into the same traps.

I do think about my exes pretty regularly.  I wish they blogged so I could track them down and catch up. 

brandybear on
Re: Ghosts of boyfriends past
It's always nice to be friends with your exes, but it rarely happens.

I'm only in contact with very few of mine, but it took years to get to that point.

WOOKIEBANTER on
Re: Ghosts of boyfriends past
ok  so disgust might have been a  slightly harsh word.   but on a side note of tha ona personal lever every girl i have ever been involved with has a spot  in me which can never be replaced by anyone else.  its weird.  but uhh yeah.... .muh
brandybear on
Re: Ghosts of boyfriends past
good save! and you killed two birds with one stone. (on account of both erin and I being here)
WOOKIEBANTER on
Re: Ghosts of boyfriends past
well  u two both have  a spot somewhere in there..    mmmmm sex... what  wait no i never said that .....
brandybear on
Re: Ghosts of boyfriends past
yes you did. and next time refrain, as I am so deprived right now. *sigh*


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