In my humble opinion, and I've been through alot of relationships over the years, is that when you decide to not go after the hotties, the rich guys, the funny guys, the flirts and settle on a best friend that you know will have your back - you've found them.  The comfort of knowing that that someone will always be there for you, will never cheat on you, will go to the store for tampax for you, keep the yard beautiful for you, will scratch your back with out being asked is the ONE. 

I've been married twice and the first was a total train wreck - leaving only one good thing, my daughter.  The second, this one, is the ONE. I knew when I was engaged to the hottie that I was going to be with him.  So hottie is gone and hubby is here to stay. 

Enough said other than he is my fairy tale.

Hugs

D

I think that we have more than one soul mate in this world.  I have had friends I consider soul mates.  I don't think it's always a romantic concept.  That is a tough question, though.  I don't know how you find "the one."  I think I have found her, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't have any doubts, especially lately.  I think we just have to keep our minds and hearts open, take life day by day. 

Good luck!  I know I'm hoping my love doesn't turn out to be a a part of perpetual disappointment.  One day we're all sure to find one that isn't.  Maybe?

Personally, I do believe in soulmates and in finding "The One". I know it's hard for most people to find someone you feel perfect with, because it is.

I'm 17 and I've been with my guy for 2 years now. He's seen every side of me and I've seen every side of him; I can say that we know each other and love each other. Is he "The One"? I certainly don't know. Sometimes I still dream of that "dream guy" who compliments me in every way; but reality is better than surreality. I think it's more important to enjoy the time with the person you're with while you can. I still don't know if my guy is "The One" for me, but I'm still young, and I guess I'll know if he is or if he isn't. If we part ways, then it means he wasn't. But if we reach a level in which we would never dream of ourselves to be with another... then maybe he is.

Maybe the moment when you find "The One" comes when you're least expecting it.... with a person sometimes you didn't even imagine. I think dreaming is important, because it lets you know that not everything is lost in lies and heartbreaks; but while wishing, we should keep an open eye for everyone in reality.

My "little" two cents

When you are ready to do whatever it takes for that person to be happy even if it means you might never see them again. That is when you know you have found "The One". When, even if they make you angrier than you have ever been in your entire life, if they cheat on you or do hurtful things, you can't face telling them how much it hurt you or yelling at them because you know it will hurt them. When revenge is no longer an option for annything that they may do to you that is how you know. When, even after they have hurt you more than you can explain, you still hear their name and see their face when you close your eyes.

Ick, I don't agree.

how/why not? I don't nescissarily think that is the explanation of "The One" but it is the closest I have ever been and would have been content to spend the rest of my life with the person that caused these feelings had they not kept on hurting me. And then again, since they did hurt me so, I suppose it would make them the wrong person. Who Knows.

I used to believe in  soulmates as purely being a romantic, but Dawsons Creek has tried to convince me otherwise...I think there's only one person for everyone, but that some people aren't meant to have one...But how would I know? I've neevr been on a date, and all a know of relationships can be summed up in six seasons of The Creek and a multitude of romance novels and movies...