I knew for some time that soemthing wasn't right. I thought I was just being silly, he assured me there was nothing going on. The first time I asked him that - he was probably telling the truth. But the second time, while out for our aniversary, I asked again and I knew he was lying. I chose to accept the lie. I had no proof. The day after Father's Day, I had my proof. For 10 months he lied to me. I couldn't believe I was right. I didn't want to be right. I want to throw him out and then again I don't....I feel like I let it happen by not saying anything when I had those "feelings". I was afraid I would look like a stupid jealous wife.....Now, by deciding to try to work this out - he's very very sorry - I feel like I'm letting him get away with it. I hate this shit.....I have 4 kids all under the age of 11 and I really really wish I could reverse time. How on earth do you trust again?