
You are so lucky to have been able to visit a house in XinChengPu. I rode my bicycle a lot in the residential area, peeking into the courtyards, trying to imagine what life was like inside.
You've identified a problem that I always felt at the academy. The school was so big, many of the instructors so young and insensitive to life in a third world country that many didn't even notice the culture they were living in. I imagine it must have been difficult for both the local Chinese to accept, understand and tolerate the instructor presence, as it was difficult for some of the instructors to do the same with the Chinese. Personally, I felt a great distance between the two cultures. I studied Chinese with Rebecca & Julie, two girls in the hotel, but due to my own heightened level of shyness the friendship never grew beyond our weekly classes in the hotel.
I think that your relationship with the Chinese was difficult for some of the instructors to understand. But I like to believe that those instructors were idiots.
Here in Linyi, where I am now, I have found less divide between the Chinese and the Westerners. (Well, seeing as how Ivan and I are the only Westerners...) We spend time together, we chat, we eat together. This time I feel much more open to the Chinese. I think that the academy in Shijiazhuang was just too big and there was too much misunderstanding between the Chinese and the Westerners. Soon we will be moving into the city proper, where I will be able to shop in smaller markets and hopefully get to know the life better. In Shijiazhuang we were so isolated it was difficult to get beyond the school environment. Again, I think you were lucky in the experiences you have had.
I am inspired by your experiences...
You've identified a problem that I always felt at the academy. The school was so big, many of the instructors so young and insensitive to life in a third world country that many didn't even notice the culture they were living in. I imagine it must have been difficult for both the local Chinese to accept, understand and tolerate the instructor presence, as it was difficult for some of the instructors to do the same with the Chinese. Personally, I felt a great distance between the two cultures. I studied Chinese with Rebecca & Julie, two girls in the hotel, but due to my own heightened level of shyness the friendship never grew beyond our weekly classes in the hotel.
I think that your relationship with the Chinese was difficult for some of the instructors to understand. But I like to believe that those instructors were idiots.
Here in Linyi, where I am now, I have found less divide between the Chinese and the Westerners. (Well, seeing as how Ivan and I are the only Westerners...) We spend time together, we chat, we eat together. This time I feel much more open to the Chinese. I think that the academy in Shijiazhuang was just too big and there was too much misunderstanding between the Chinese and the Westerners. Soon we will be moving into the city proper, where I will be able to shop in smaller markets and hopefully get to know the life better. In Shijiazhuang we were so isolated it was difficult to get beyond the school environment. Again, I think you were lucky in the experiences you have had.
I am inspired by your experiences...
I feel lucky... It's hard to explain how things worked out the way they did, but I'm grateful. I too am extremely shy, but arriving with two over-tired, moderately traumatized children (due to culture-shock mostly), I had to assert myself... Most of the people in Shijiazhuang never understood that it was my choice to allow the Chinese around me to help me out in the only way they knew how. I couldn't have survived without them. Still, they too kept me at a certain distance until I almost came to blows with a newer arrival who, for reasons I can only speculate at, decided he had the right to proclaim, "I don't know who she is, but you'll only see her with those three farmer women. 'Ahhh! HELP ME! I'm turning into a dirty little pesant". This was met by roars of laughter from numerous Instructors in the Lobby, and even a few chuckles from the girls behind the counter who could understand enough English to guess their meaning. It hurt. I cried - A lot - And, ultimately, decided to wash my hands of the accedemy. I'm not sure who told my friends what had happened, but they found out.
Later, LanFeng told me, "You're not a foreigner now. You're a moon-nosed, round-eyed Chinese." We all had to fight our way upstream in a pretty strong current, but it was worth it.
I went to see DaMa today. It broke my heart. I mean, you could see your breath inside of the house - Even if your hands were inches from the stove - And there she stood with her patched and filthy cotton batted pants, a padded vest over a tattered thermal undershirt, a scarf wrapped around her head, eyes watering from the cold... But she seemed genuinely happy to see me, which I admit surprised me a little. I mean, she spent the better part of the first three months of our aquaintance muttering "high-nosed foreign-devil" under her breath. Today she patted me on the shoulder and told me to "go slowly" and "say hello to the kids".
Missunderstanding runs rampant at the hotel, not only amongst the Chinese/foreign camps, but amognst the City Dweller/Village Dweller parties as well. Anyway, you know ALL about life in the Shiz... Suffice it to say, I'm glad I've been accepted into their lives and their homes. It's easier to be friends when no one's job is on the line.
Later, LanFeng told me, "You're not a foreigner now. You're a moon-nosed, round-eyed Chinese." We all had to fight our way upstream in a pretty strong current, but it was worth it.
I went to see DaMa today. It broke my heart. I mean, you could see your breath inside of the house - Even if your hands were inches from the stove - And there she stood with her patched and filthy cotton batted pants, a padded vest over a tattered thermal undershirt, a scarf wrapped around her head, eyes watering from the cold... But she seemed genuinely happy to see me, which I admit surprised me a little. I mean, she spent the better part of the first three months of our aquaintance muttering "high-nosed foreign-devil" under her breath. Today she patted me on the shoulder and told me to "go slowly" and "say hello to the kids".
Missunderstanding runs rampant at the hotel, not only amongst the Chinese/foreign camps, but amognst the City Dweller/Village Dweller parties as well. Anyway, you know ALL about life in the Shiz... Suffice it to say, I'm glad I've been accepted into their lives and their homes. It's easier to be friends when no one's job is on the line.
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