Sociopathy: MORAL INSANITY

it has been a puzzle to me why the most selfish, insensitive people i know are also the ones who claim a mastery of social graces and are most often experts in feigning concern, empathy and sensitivity.



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They don't have the normal empathy the rest of us take for granted. They don't feel affection. They don't care about others. But most of them are good observers, and they have learned how to mimic those feelings remarkably well.

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So that the narcissist can think he seems grand, he must make you seem insignificant by comparison. This is why malignant narcissists act as though it would kill them to compliment you, to thank you for anything, to tell you they love you, to listen to you, to say they're sorry for something, to give you credit for being right about anything, to put their arm around you, to take an interest in anything you do . . . and let's just cut to the chase: they act like it would kill them give you one bit of gratification. They won't even look at you: they pay more attention to a fly on the wall.

but they're not even grand....!

They gotta have it all, you see. Nobody ever taught them to share.

uh?

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But treating you like you're nothing is just one of many ways they act out their fantasy that they are so grand that you are dirt under their feet. So, look out. Delusions of grandeur are hard to maintain and are constantly challenged by reality.

For example, do you have a fine reputation? Look out, that threatens the narcissist's delusion that he is the greatest, so he'll have to fix that fine reputation of yours.

Do you excel at something? Look out, that threatens the narcissist's delusion that he is the greatest, so he'll have to sabotage your work.

Do you have an outstanding personal virtue? Look out, that threatens the narcissist's delusion that he is the greatest, so he'll have to drag your virtue through the mud, attributing it to himself while he portrays it in you as a vice.

Yes, Pathological Envy is one of his middle names.  I soooo agree!!!

But treating others like nothing and destroying them aren't the only ways narcissists act out their fantasy and maintain their delusions of grandeur. Those delusions evaporate without constant reinforcement, so a malignant narcissist needs to prove he's God Almighty by trampling someone about as frequently as most other predators need to make a kill. It's just more of the same. So that the narcissist can think he seems grand, he must crush you like a bug underfoot.

Therefore, if you are down and out, look out, you're going to get kicked.

Can he get away with abusing you behind closed doors? Look out. And if you try to complain, you'll be sorry, because he'll have the whole world conned ahead of time into viewing you as the malicious one who's imagining things.  

Yes, Diabolo is another one of his middle names.

 So right!

what's boggling though is why  people believe these narcissists.

they are but self-proclaimed lords and queens of the underworld , they just thrive on delusions (yet have the gall to claim that those who have actual claims to accomplishments are the ones living in illusion).

why don't people see that without the connections and fanatics they were able to lure, they really lack the things that they so envy in other people?

is this because they have the knowledge of human emotions but they just don't have the moral boundaries to stop them from taking control of others' spheres?

are we prone to them because we have the capacity to feel guilty and they don't - and they know this so they can go at all costs without bounds, while we, we can't play the game they set before us because our conscience stops us from doing so?

how then do we stop such people from harassing us?

what if we already made sure we stay out of their way so our relationships,  accomplishments, or our mere existence will not irk them (although obviously, we don't even have to do anything to annoy them)? 

What if they're too afraid of the shadows they made that they continually have their loyal narcissist-wannabes haunt us and taunt us just to make us feel we're nobodies, losers ? (by their definition)

How do we even pound some sense into these people?

how can we even send the message across that we don't give a hoot whether they brand us a loser, a wino, a weirdo, a whatever?... that we just wanna be left alone. (well, if they're the benchmark of what being winners are, of what being sensible and sane is, i don't know about you but i, i'd surely wanna be on the opposite side of that spectrum.)

why are they so hell-bent in proving that we're nobodies when we don't even spend time thinking whether others consider us as "somebody".  

truth be told, the tags only gain traction because of their constant reference to these boxed perceptions:  "she's not somebody, she's not the person  you think she is,  you're the only ones who think she's somebody, blah- blah.."

somebody. nobody. anybody.

blech.
 
call me nobody anytime.

just leave me alone.