death
You're lucky though. Sometimes being sheltered is a good thing. I'd do anything to have my innocence and naivety about life back. I'm honored to be in your blog though. =]
sure.
but that's not the point.
i haven't experienced like, anything.
and it's annoying. not to mention embarrassing at times too.
i dunno.
like i said.
it's just weird for me.
but that's not the point.
i haven't experienced like, anything.
and it's annoying. not to mention embarrassing at times too.
i dunno.
like i said.
it's just weird for me.
Yeah. It is weird.
I didn't have anyone I really knew die until I was in college. I've had friends whose parents had died, but I never met the parent because it wasn't a really close friend. Hell, my first grandparent died when I was 24! I, too, didn't know how to react to death because I hadn't seen it.
In the almost 12 years since, I've seen the rest of my grandparents as well as one parent die. I've also had closer friends who have lost parents -- and one of them lost a child. People treat death in very different ways, and that's okay. It's also okay if the way that you're reacting now changes several times through your life.
So -- yeah. There's not anything wrong with you.
-- S
I didn't have anyone I really knew die until I was in college. I've had friends whose parents had died, but I never met the parent because it wasn't a really close friend. Hell, my first grandparent died when I was 24! I, too, didn't know how to react to death because I hadn't seen it.
In the almost 12 years since, I've seen the rest of my grandparents as well as one parent die. I've also had closer friends who have lost parents -- and one of them lost a child. People treat death in very different ways, and that's okay. It's also okay if the way that you're reacting now changes several times through your life.
So -- yeah. There's not anything wrong with you.
-- S
One more thing I want to add since we're both Jewish: the Jewish death/mourning process is pretty cathartic and psychologically spot on, in my opinion. The notion that once a close relative dies you get to circumvent pretty much every circumstance of life and mitzvot in order to get ready for the funeral, the notion of a burial in a plain, pine box (or even less if you're in Israel), and the Shiva and Shloshim periods after the burial where you're supposed to not care about how you look, and people are out there to comfort you and help you back into the real world progressively -- all of these were very helpful for me to manage through the grieving process.
I hope you don't have to go through anything like this for a long time, but if you do keep in mind that it's a pretty good system.
-- S
I hope you don't have to go through anything like this for a long time, but if you do keep in mind that it's a pretty good system.
-- S
yeah the Shiva.
my mom wanted me and my sisters to do some stuff for my grandma.
but i honestly just couldn't care less.
and just to make it worse, it happened during my Spring Break so all i could do is go to track practice at 9 am and then nothing because we weren't allowed to leave our house.
the worst part of my grandmother dying is being bored. that's it.
and it's not that i think there's anything really wrong with me.
i just kinda feel a little left behind.
not that i want someone to die.
i just don't know how to help any of my friends that are dealing with it because i've never dealt with it.
it's kind of annoying.
my mom wanted me and my sisters to do some stuff for my grandma.
but i honestly just couldn't care less.
and just to make it worse, it happened during my Spring Break so all i could do is go to track practice at 9 am and then nothing because we weren't allowed to leave our house.
the worst part of my grandmother dying is being bored. that's it.
and it's not that i think there's anything really wrong with me.
i just kinda feel a little left behind.
not that i want someone to die.
i just don't know how to help any of my friends that are dealing with it because i've never dealt with it.
it's kind of annoying.
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