you should not do anything dramatic or *large* for the next year (unless it was already on the plate)....do not make any huge decisions, do not change houses, do not get married, do not start a new job...unless it's a *has to*. you need to be close to family and friends for the next few months (they need to see you as much as you need to see them). grief is a major stressor, whether we wear our heart on our sleeve or keep it in a jar in the root celler; it's very big and you don't need the added stress of new.
not trying to be a buttinski, just giving you the benefit of my hard-won, 20-20 hindsight. ((((((((((b))))))))))
Actually, grieving for Mom is a lot different than it was for Dad as his death was more or less unexpected and we weren't emotionally prepared. For Mom, we are all pretty much 'griefed out' and look forward to making the adjustments away from the day to day worry we have had for the past 7 years.
Personally, I am looking forward to slipping back to my privacy after this past week, LOL. Thanks for your words - I appreciate them and the thought behind them - b.
i figured as much (the differences between the deaths of your parents) and i think i know you pretty well, so i'm not as concerned as i *could* be...just doing a lil mental health check-up on you, bc grief is grief and it can be insidiously sneaky. i'd feel a whole lot better if i could give you a hug in person, hand you monet and pour you a beer. do plan to use our guest room soonly....i'd love to see you and i can't wait for you to meet mark.
much love (and hugs to barry),
s/l
As far as your feet go...yeah, WC would be a nice little package and I would go for that as long as it doesn't jeopardize your plans for this other place. I fully agree with you that the idea that getting in there means they don't have a high turnover rate. You ALWAYS think things through so well, and I have faith that you will with this as well. Just continue to do so, and I Know that whatever happens you will "land on your feet" (sorry, you had to know that was coming!) Being home once in a while would be good for you and you need to do what you feel is right. You know that I'll come and visit you if you never get sent up here with P&B 
Love ya B! Give Barry a big hug from me if you get to read this before she heads back home! L
All that aside, I want you to ask yourself something - don't answer me, answer this for yourself. Are you happy at Schneider? Can you see yourself staying there? As you said, you waited for 2 years to get into that company, but now that you're there - do you like it enough to want to stay?
Remember when you wrote about the change in weather in Texas, and that maybe your mom heard you complaining about it so she took it upon herself to change it for you...Have you thought that maybe this job opportunity at K&B may have come up in part by your mom's hand? Maybe she played a part in opening a new door for you....just a thought I had when I read this. If it's a company with low turnover and there are rare opportunities to get in, why not take a chance? The economy is bad right now, so they likely will get tons of applicants, and maybe you'll get the job, maybe you won't - but you won't know unless you try.
Whatever you do, Bruce, do what is best for YOU. You're the one who knows what's best for Bruce.
