Gravity

To be different than my normal posts, and prove there's more to me than a horny god-freak, this'll be a physics one!
Gravity has been hard to link in with other theories, I think because it involves mass, and mass is known to slow down relative time so I think you have at least 2 factors making things complicated and contributing to the same overall force.

In a black hole, you have at the singularity an infinite density of mass (not infinite amount, but density), there, time stops completely, because that's the only reason something like light cannot escape - light has no mass, so in theory it shouldn't be affected by gravity in the classical sense, so in theory if time didn't stop at the singularity light would either pass through or reflect from, or emit from a black hole as if it was a planet.

And there has been a theory that gravity is just the effect of how time is distorted in the direction towards the mass, which (by ways I don't understand because I can't imagine 4d spacetime) causes us to be attracted to the mass.

But I don't think gravity can only be one effect, I don't think the effect of distorting spacetime is strong enough by itself to explain how planets of low mass, like ours, manage to hold onto as much as they do - the distortion of time by relativity is a weak effect, so I think there's also a field affect (similar to magnetism) - that happens between mass, in addition to the established attraction we have to mass because of distorted time.

If mass can be represented as being like a sort of spin (as other things can be) - perhaps it can couple to other spins? That would make it like magnetism, which is the overall attraction you get because large scale coupling of the spin of many atomic nuclei in magnetism causes a large energy difference, which is what causes the attraction/repulsion. Coupling is known to vary with distance, like gravity, and better yet, it's not totally smooth classical physics (like field effects used to be thought to be) - it depends on the number of things you have spinning and how they couple - very on+off - perhaps gravity is the same? - not a smooth classical attraction but one that depends on the number of units of mass you have that can couple. (mass is quantized)