You know, you really don't know what happened, so I suggest you just stay out of it.

maybe i don't, but it was still 2 years ago. maybe you should grow up and try to get over whatever he did.

Like I said, you don't know what happened. 

well, whatever it was, it's still no reason to tell somebody that they aren't welcome here because you don't want to talk to them. that's just not nice.

Thanks for the advice, mom.

(Yeah, that was sarcastic and bitchy, I know.)

Look, I tell you what.  Maybe if you know everything I went through (which definitely sounds melodramatic, I know..... honestly, this whole thing reads like a damn soap opera and I am conscious of how outlandish some of it sounds) you might understand a little better why I am still so upset about it.  This is someone I met here, someone who faked the death of a sibling to get out of meeting me, someone who lied about their identity for over a year, someone for whom I moved twice totaling 2800 miles, only to receive a few days notice that he was going to marry someone else in an arranged marriage, three weeks after the second move.  Going through all that and more batters a heart and leaves a lot of scars, and it is simply taking more than two years to heal.

And despite all that, I never said he wasn't welcome here.  If you got that idea from what he quoted in his entry, I wasn't the one who said that.  It was my nosy best friend who I kindly requested yesterday to butt the fuck out because it's not his place to make that request.  What I did say was that I hurt so much every day that I can't take the added pain of him writing like I never existed in his life, because he truly is still the love of mine.  I asked that if he writes, to please consider if what he has to say would hurt me and to not write if the answer is yes.  I love his writing.  I always encouraged him to write a book, and I do go back and reread his old entries.  They comfort me sometimes, because I remember watching him write them and I remember how much he loves writing.  But I'm still healing from everything I went through for that relationship, and I can't stand seeing new entries pop up if they're just going to be about how wonderful or conversely how miserable his life is since he got married.  It will hurt all over again.  (And yes, I'm aware the simple answer is just "don't read it" or "defriend him" but like I said reading his old writing comforts me and I'm just not at the point yet where I can let go of it.  And if I visit and there's a new entry, I won't just be able to skip past it and pretend like it doesn't exist.  I think that's just human nature.)

You don't know him or me and I don't expect you to invest much in learning about what happened because hey, we're strangers and tomorrow you won't even remember who I am.  But you wrote about it, and summed up the worst pain of my life, as "dumb".  I felt the need to try and justify myself a little bit from such a snap judgment by a stranger.

FUCKING FINALLY. a classy put-down. been years since i've gotten a good one.
either way, best of luck getting over the subject of the soap that you should really pitch to some writer. you could make some money off this story. anyways, i don't believe we've been formally introduced. hi, i'm Alex! you'll forgive the snap judgment, i still think it sounds a bit weird, no lie, but if it hurts you that much then far be it from me to judge what it did to you. also, don't think that it means that i've judged you as a person. so, you've officially shut me up, the rest is up to you.