Butch and Femme: Genderist Lesbians

I think the whole "butch" and "femme" thing is totally whack. Wasn't the whole point of "being your own person" by freely expressing your sexuality supposed to break stereotypes and boxes as opposed to repackaging our relationships with similar gender roles that we see in the majority of straight people?

It seems when being introduced in some circles of homos and non homos the first question is "are you butch or femme?" and I honestly think its very offensive. I like to wear guys clothes sometimes and prefer to take a more dominant role in the bedroom, but I love pink (the color, not vag :-p) and am very "girly" in many other stereotypical senses.

I have been told by some girls that I wasn't femme enough for them (although I think that was code for attractive) while others said that I wasn't butch so they would not give me the time of day.

I am aware that as long as humans exists, no matter what sexual orientation or mindset one may have, that we will continue to try to put everyone and everything in boxes.

My question is am I the only person that thinks "butch" and "femme" stereotypes in lesbian and straight relationships are totally bogus and should go away?