Physical attraction is what most guys look for in a potential significant other. I mean everyone does in some way or another. The reason women feel that they need to maintain a great looking body is because it drives away their insecurity in knowing that other guys aren't going to be thinking negatively about their physical appearance. I mean after all, alot of women are materialistic. They want the nice car with the latest fashions and their ideal man walking beside them to show them off. But yknow Angel, sometimes sexual insecurity can be because a lack of sexual satisfaction. Alot of women don't feel that in their experiences that they've truly had a guy bring out the woman in them. So in turn, they start feeling less like a woman themselves. I mean after all, estrogen is a hormone produced naturally which makes a woman feel feminine, just as testosterone does the same for men. If there is a lack of either hormone being produced in either sexes body, it can play a role in the psychological security of a person's sexual insecurities. I mean I don't see anything wrong in wearing guy shirts, if you're comfortable in them then there's nothing wrong with that. I don't see anything wrong with women wanting to experiment with other women either. But if they've gone so far as to not like people of the opposite sex, then there's something else going on in the wiring of their brains right there. Then again, some girls just don't know what its like to have really good sex with a guy either because in many, if not all of their experiences, the guy has gotten off before them and left them unsatisfied. That's just poor taste in men and when a woman has poor taste in men, especially from that perspective, its no wonder they would doubt their own sexuality. I've met women that have told me this very thing, their guy doesn't turn them on or get them off and they start not wanting to have it because of their past disappointments. It's a damn shame really. It's amazing to see a girl that's never had an orgasm end up having multiples, the look on their face is priceless. I mean I haven't been with that many women cause I choose not to, but the few I have been with, I've been able to help them experience that satisfaction in bringing out the woman in them. I see the transition too, I've seen tomboys end up becoming more sensitive and emotional. It's good to see their softer side. A good man will make a woman feel secure. A good man will make a woman feel truly loved. I don't think you're butch or a lesbian or anything, we all have doubts in our life. Mine is if I'll ever seek a relationship with someone committed enough to settle down with. It's hard to find someone like that when girls my age want to act like teenagers.

I am at work so I will respond best I can with my limited time. Honestly I don't understand why anybody would label you a dyke, or lesbian. Other than the company you keep. Now you must understand I am no against gays in any way. But if you spend a lot of your time with gays, then people will most likely think that of you as well. My best friend for years was bi, and all the new people I would meet with him that knew him to be bi. Assumed I was too. Of course I did get a lot of action from women because I let them think I was gay. Apparently some women get a kick out of being a guys first. Of course this was back when I was a total pig. Anyway, I digress. I think you are absolutely sexy the way you are. I believe I have been vocal about that with you in the past. If you are more comfortable around lesbians because you don't feel judged then that is fine. Just pretend every guy you meet is a lesbian in a mans body. Over the course of my life I have learned that people come and go out of your life like busboys in a restaurant. You meet new people, if they don't treat you the way you want to be treated or make you feel comfortable with who you are. You drop them. I have made and lost a lot of friends over the years simply because they didn't accept me for who I am. Whether it is women or men you choose, they have to like you for who you are and you should be comfortable with who you are. Believe me if I was single and a but younger, I would be pursuing you. You got everything I like in a woman.

you? a pig? never!

 

thank you for your lovely response. I really wasn't sure as to what kind of response I would get from this post but your advice is helpful :-*

Well I try to help best I can. You will be fine. These things come with time, and from learning from your mistakes. The most important thing in your life is to make you happy before you try to make someone else happy. Took me a long time to actually live by that, but it is true. You have to be kind of selfish to a point.

welcome to america. that's all i really know to say. i've taken a few classes that examine everything that you mentioned in this entry, such as the rigid sexual stereotypes n how if a woman has short hair or doesn't dress according to how society says a woman should be dressing, she's a dyke

yeah I studied this shit in into to sociology. or how we dont let baby boys wear pink and play with dolls because that might make them gay. somehow I think prohibiting those playthings stopped the homo epidemic :-p

yeah, just like how not letting gays adopt children stopped it from spreading, lol

The gender roles we have here are unreal.

 

All you have to do is look at commericals...men are watching sports, eating pizza and drinking beer, then the woman walks in asking if she looks fat and gets annoyed because the man(being a man) biologically cannot pay attention to his wife when a sports game is on.

 

That is just one example...but usually they always fall into the same rule. It just keeps these steroptypes going. I also think there are too many parents that keep these sterotypes going.

 

-also, I should mentin that there is never(I never seen one at least) a commerical where gay people(men or women) are taken seriously...I heard there are commericals like that in europe, but I am not sure if that is true-

 

And unfortunatly, the LGBT community is the most hated(and ignored) minority since they are a minority that all other minorities are 'aloud' to hate.

you make an awesome point about gay people being on the ass end (no pun intended) of jokes in commericals. Men have to boats being manly, even if that includes being stupid, and women must be 100 pounds with big boobs

 

hopefully the lgbt community will make the same or similair strides in equality like black people have