You know what I'm wondering? She can't be happy either from what you're saying, so what is she (or actually both of you) waiting or hoping for? Well, probably for things to turn out alright again I guess... I hope the situation is not as final and hopeless as you make it seem to be...

Yeah, it's not a situation I am longing to stay in at the moment, and I too hope it's not as fatal as it seems but like most things in my life at the moment, it's really not up to me...

Like Wendy I'm wondering: why...?

It's not exactly easy to be alone when you live with the person you don't want to be around. That's the long and short of it at the moment.

Outside of a relationship, how do you normally make up after an argument?  Do you apply that first, then eventually warm up those uglies?  I never understood why people stay together when all that does is make them miserable, life is tough enough without actively adding to it.  Then again, I believe it's better to be alone than in a crappy relationship, I can handle that.

Outside of a relationship, I ususally don't argue. Go figure. And there are times I wish I was alone, but right now I don't have a choice...

why have your choices been taken away, enlighten me if you want...here or on gmail.

I entered into a contractural obligation with her and I am not free to sever ties until September.  Not to mention I am a few months away from being able to support myself, by myself, to do anything. My hands are tied at the moment. More like straight jacket tied to be exact...

Well then, I applaud you on continuing your obligations under a strained set of emotional circumstances.  If your feelings (the romantic ones) are over then I hope you can find other activities to occupy yourself outside of the shared space, and be able to deal with a roommate until you can be on your own.

So much easier said than done. It's no wonder I've looked at the institute of marraige as just that, an institute....for the mentally impaired....you know, like bellview...

My wife and I have the opposite problem -- we almost never fight, and there is quite a lack of both passion and sex. 

Maybe we should sign up for wife swap.

 

Kidding....I wouldn't even wish the little devil on my worst enemy...

Ok, I'll stick with my wife then!  But part of me wants freedom.  I've asked her if she wants to sign up for wife swap, if she wants to do a 3-some, if she wants to stay with me overnight at a motel, etc, and got a "no" each time.  For years I asked if she wants to do couples counseling, and she finally said yes, but I was dumb enough to tell her that the counselor said I could have an affair and just not tell her.  This obviously turned her off.