onlinePlease grant me this rant today. Judge me how you will…I do not care.
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Yes I will bitch about men. BUT not all men, just the ones I am about to describe. If you read this and agree with me, you are one of the good ones. If you read this, do not identify specifically but feel offended as a man…I am sorry, but you are too sensitive as well. On the other hand if you identify with what I will describe below and think I am a ‘diffcult woman’….then I guaranty you women think the same as me…they just are not saying it. You need social help.
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OK so everyone says dating is harsh and we set our expectations too high. I am in a online dating pĥase which will be very short. This is vanilla dating, not bdsm. But I am seeing it and judging it with bdsm dominant eyes. Some may call me a snob…but it seems I just refuse to let go basic expectations. Judge for yourself:
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So I agreed to meet someone today. Someone I knew very well had a very different background then me and whom I was pretty sure I would not click with. But hey you never know and worse case I figured we would have had a nice meal. MSN chats were amusing enough. Well….how wrong I was! I was immediately stuck by his crudeness and lack of social dating skills. I just sat in his car. On the short drive to the restaurant he managed to make fun of everything I said in some way or another. He made fun of where I live, he made fun of me, he made fun of my interests and he made fun of blonds (I am a natural blond). Everything was dripping with sarcasm. We parked and I already was CRISP with tension. I was seriously hesitating to get up and leave. I shut down like clam. Then he complained about my choice of seating, complained about the menu, made fun of my interest again several times.
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The waitress came to take our order. I said in a clearly irritated voice the only thing I was going to have was a cup of coffee and nothing else. I think she picked up on it. He was left confused and decided to not order food either. I looked at him and I said bluntly this was obviously not going to work and I was off after the coffee. He was totally startled and disagreed with my reasons of him being crass and poking fun at me at every turn. He called it normal humor. He said he assumed this was a casual meeting without expectations.
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Ah sorry? I had none either, I had actually lowered my expectations. Last time I checked when you meet a stranger its social etiquette to be on polite and good behavior? Like not insulting my gender or the intelligence of my hair color as you meet me? I am suppose to not be affected by that? Anyways he stopped the jokes, we had a coffee…I let him talk cause I could not care and I did not even let him drop me off anywhere I said bye right there. There was a lot more I cannot mention here but my overall impression was a representation of a low class uneducated, set in his ways guy. The worse part is online he said he needed a woman with intelligence and a head on her shoulders. He seems to have forgotten one little detail: if he wants a woman like that he should be able to bring intellect to the table too. Am I a snob in this case? Should I lower my expectations here?
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Unfortunately this is not the only bad experience of my last meetings. I did the online dating thing a lot 4 years ago and although I did not click with all they had proper social skills. This time…it plummeted down the drain. Again am I a snob for complaining that the 5 last guys I met:
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- 2 had obvious stains on their t-shirt.
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Let me tell you though they may not have known I was a webcam girls but man did they listen to me tell them exactly what I thought. I do not hold back anymore for such things. I don,t make a scene but I do not let them get away with such unpolite behavior. So, what do you think? Am I being to difficult? And yes all of them seemed nice online. I am exasperated. I really don’t understand because I have plenty of male friends in all walks of life and they all know how to behave. There must be some like them online? Where are you? This webcam tube?
.
Yes I will bitch about men. BUT not all men, just the ones I am about to describe. If you read this and agree with me, you are one of the good ones. If you read this, do not identify specifically but feel offended as a man…I am sorry, but you are too sensitive as well. On the other hand if you identify with what I will describe below and think I am a ‘diffcult woman’….then I guaranty you women think the same as me…they just are not saying it. You need social help.
.
OK so everyone says dating is harsh and we set our expectations too high. I am in a online dating pĥase which will be very short. This is vanilla dating, not bdsm. But I am seeing it and judging it with bdsm dominant eyes. Some may call me a snob…but it seems I just refuse to let go basic expectations. Judge for yourself:
.
So I agreed to meet someone today. Someone I knew very well had a very different background then me and whom I was pretty sure I would not click with. But hey you never know and worse case I figured we would have had a nice meal. MSN chats were amusing enough. Well….how wrong I was! I was immediately stuck by his crudeness and lack of social dating skills. I just sat in his car. On the short drive to the restaurant he managed to make fun of everything I said in some way or another. He made fun of where I live, he made fun of me, he made fun of my interests and he made fun of blonds (I am a natural blond). Everything was dripping with sarcasm. We parked and I already was CRISP with tension. I was seriously hesitating to get up and leave. I shut down like clam. Then he complained about my choice of seating, complained about the menu, made fun of my interest again several times.
.
The waitress came to take our order. I said in a clearly irritated voice the only thing I was going to have was a cup of coffee and nothing else. I think she picked up on it. He was left confused and decided to not order food either. I looked at him and I said bluntly this was obviously not going to work and I was off after the coffee. He was totally startled and disagreed with my reasons of him being crass and poking fun at me at every turn. He called it normal humor. He said he assumed this was a casual meeting without expectations.
.
Ah sorry? I had none either, I had actually lowered my expectations. Last time I checked when you meet a stranger its social etiquette to be on polite and good behavior? Like not insulting my gender or the intelligence of my hair color as you meet me? I am suppose to not be affected by that? Anyways he stopped the jokes, we had a coffee…I let him talk cause I could not care and I did not even let him drop me off anywhere I said bye right there. There was a lot more I cannot mention here but my overall impression was a representation of a low class uneducated, set in his ways guy. The worse part is online he said he needed a woman with intelligence and a head on her shoulders. He seems to have forgotten one little detail: if he wants a woman like that he should be able to bring intellect to the table too. Am I a snob in this case? Should I lower my expectations here?
.
Unfortunately this is not the only bad experience of my last meetings. I did the online dating thing a lot 4 years ago and although I did not click with all they had proper social skills. This time…it plummeted down the drain. Again am I a snob for complaining that the 5 last guys I met:
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- 2 had obvious stains on their t-shirt.
- 4 where underdressed, I am talking high mileage very casual clothes. 2 looked like they arrived from the gym. Only 1 was well dressed.
- 1 I had to tell him to stop talking with his mouth full
- 2 swore like sailors
- 2 repulsed me with the quantity of food the comsumed and the horrible table etiquette. One ordered tzatiki and hoovered it in big globs pushing it off the service plate towards me.
- 1 never ever asked me a single question about me or let me express my opinion..
Let me tell you though they may not have known I was a webcam girls but man did they listen to me tell them exactly what I thought. I do not hold back anymore for such things. I don,t make a scene but I do not let them get away with such unpolite behavior. So, what do you think? Am I being to difficult? And yes all of them seemed nice online. I am exasperated. I really don’t understand because I have plenty of male friends in all walks of life and they all know how to behave. There must be some like them online? Where are you? This webcam tube?
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