love
I am not here to fullfill someone's lustfull desires. If you really care about someone, you don't try to control and manipulate them, you respect who they are as a person. You give your opinion & advice, but ultimately you let them make their own decisions. You accept them for who they are and you don't try to change them. If you don't do these things, you don't love or care about a person. And I'm talking in general: friends, boyfriends, girlfriends, etc. If you do the opposite, you are using that person to acheive something for your own desires. And that's wrong, especially when you call that person a friend. My mother & grandmother are always right. My grandmother told me that if she didn't stop the advances then she was not a real friend. And it proved true. But I didn't listen to her, I just let it go, accepted it. Because I am an accepting person, and I don't like to judge people, no matter what disgusting or shameful things they do or have done. But she was right: She was never my real friend. A real friend would not try to control my life and turn me into something I'm not and will never be. A real friend would consider my feelings and my happiness, not just their own.
I was a dupe, a fool, a pawn. But now I am liberated. I didn't recognize what she's been trying to do from the start--destroy my precious relationship with someone who REALLY loves me. Out of jealousy. Out of pure lust, infatuation, maybe even obsession. I knew it was the end when she uttered that gross, selfish, question, "Who's more important?". I could see if he was some guy I had met recently and just started dating. I could see if the only thing we had was intimate relations. Then, that statement may be justified. I replied with, "That's like choosing between your mother and your father, your sister and your brother." And she just laughed, and said her mom. She LAUGHED! Given, I know some people don't have great relationships with certain family members, but it's just the concept of choosing one person you care about over another, it's sick. You don't do that. By saying that she was suggesting that I am choosing "a guy" over a best friend. The "dick" over my "chick" if you will. But what she must understand is, I've known her for 2 years, I've known him for nearly 5. We dated for over a year. I only shared a fraction of what I shared with him than her. He knows me inside out. We adopted characteristics of eachother and learned from eachother to make ourselves better, more mature individuals. She was just a female friend of mine. Comparing the two of them is like comparing a piece of jewelry passed down in your family for generations with one your "best friend" gave you, and asking you which one you would grab in a fire if you could only take one. Which one do you THINK I'm gonna pick?
Who's more important? I think that speaks for itself.
When you met us we were a team, and as you leave us, we are a team. You failed, your efforts were wasted. All you did was give us more life experience and bring us closer then ever.
