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You seem pretty mature. Why don't you just tell your parents that you do feel mature and that you understand they have to do certain things for the whole family and that it's okay and you'll be fine with whatever they decide? It would really help out, I'm certain.
Your mum doesn't sound particularly nice to you, their role as parents should be to deal with stuff that bothers you and encourage you, not beat you down. I wonder if she sees you as a threat or something, or is assuming the worst about how you feel - which isn't fair on you, and that resentment is not the way to solve things.
Like misterskank says, if you could change their perception of you, they might not assume the worst maybe. It will be hard if they want to make pre-emptive judgements of you, but eventually you'd get there and you don't have much option really, even though them being like that isn't your fault.
Like misterskank says, if you could change their perception of you, they might not assume the worst maybe. It will be hard if they want to make pre-emptive judgements of you, but eventually you'd get there and you don't have much option really, even though them being like that isn't your fault.
Meh. If it "helps" any, I can't really remember the last time she praised me for accomplishing something. She always finds a fault to pick out, in almost anything I do. That's why I stopped showing her my writing, and generally "tore" myself away from her. I don't talk to her about my life anymore, more so, how I feel - because instead of hugging me and telling me that things will get better, she expects me to "get over it" with a snap of a finger, and starts telling me how worse my life would be if I were with another family. Or she compares her motherlike "nature" and "tactics" to other mothers in the neighborhood. For example, "Oh? And does so-and-so do this, this, this, for their daughters? No." She thinks all I care about is myself, but what she doesn't seem to realize is that I always put others before myself.
I recently decided to show her my letter I made up for History, which is previously in my one of my entries - if you want to take a look - and as soon as she started reading it, she quickly found a fault and said "Oh, you should re-word that. Use some different words in that paragraph." before she told me I did a good job on it. :/
I don't really understand how a child (in my case, anyway) could pose as a "threat" to a parent. Although, I do know that my mother expected me to turn out totally different instead of the way I currently am.
I recently decided to show her my letter I made up for History, which is previously in my one of my entries - if you want to take a look - and as soon as she started reading it, she quickly found a fault and said "Oh, you should re-word that. Use some different words in that paragraph." before she told me I did a good job on it. :/
I don't really understand how a child (in my case, anyway) could pose as a "threat" to a parent. Although, I do know that my mother expected me to turn out totally different instead of the way I currently am.
A threat as in, perhaps for your father's attention and also generally daughters gain their looks as their mothers lose theirs, and suddenly you've got a voice of your own and don't answer to them... and parents get used to thinking of their children as children. Suppressing you and making you feel like a disappointment in every way is a way to take away the confidence you'll need to succeed - so you can't out-perform them, so they themselves won't feel inferior to you; and also if you're pushed into submission you'll start taking orders, so it'll be like you were as a child again, which is comfortable for them. Their insecurities can make them do things like that without even realising - and you just living normally can sometimes be enough to make them feel you're intruding on their feelings.
And, yeah, things could certainly be a helluva lot worse, but they shouldn't even be bad in the first place!
She may well care for you also, but there seems something slightly hypocritical about saying all you care about is yourself, because she wouldn't be 100% trying to get you to perform all the time otherwise.
And, yeah, things could certainly be a helluva lot worse, but they shouldn't even be bad in the first place!
She may well care for you also, but there seems something slightly hypocritical about saying all you care about is yourself, because she wouldn't be 100% trying to get you to perform all the time otherwise.
Wow. Gosh. You know what? Sometimes we parents get wrapped up in our own lives and forget that just because something's 'not an issue' for us, it doesn't mean it can't be an issue for you. We tend to stretch ourselves thin over a million different things. A move would affect you- but I'm guessing if you felt assured or could trust that they're looking out for the greater good with you in mind, things might not seem so bad. Don't take it personally. Or try not to. Parents are just...people.
I have 3 daughters and they are very independent. I taught them to be this away. I wanted them to have confendence in their self's and to know they could take care of their self's. And they turned out the way I hoped they would. Now I didn't know that they would be so independent that they would never need my knowledge of life that I had aquire along the way when I was raising them. And this upset me that I could not contribut still in their lives. So I guess what Iam saying is that we love our children and try to raise them to let them see that they can take care of their self's but we don't see that we are preparing them to be without us.
Even though this move is very upsetting for you and it would be for any child that has to move from their school and friends that this will in the furture help you with change in your own life. It will let you see that you can make new friends at a new school and that just maybe this move could be a new adventure for you with new things to learn if you let it be.
I hope to here you smile again. And am sad that you are sadden. I hope this helps in some way.
good luck
Even though this move is very upsetting for you and it would be for any child that has to move from their school and friends that this will in the furture help you with change in your own life. It will let you see that you can make new friends at a new school and that just maybe this move could be a new adventure for you with new things to learn if you let it be.
I hope to here you smile again. And am sad that you are sadden. I hope this helps in some way.
good luck
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