I think I'll add this to my blog, just because I doubt anyone is going to read in the blog it's in now, and it would be a waste of writing, in my opinion, to just leave it abandoned. This was a respose to brandybear's blog a few days ago about anti feminism. Granted, it was four in the morning when I wrote this, and I was pissed off by what she said(two conditions I should never have wrtten under) but I think I got my point across.


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First off, if you think being a woman is about wanting power and selling your self with sex, then you are highly mistaken. And before you criticize feminism, or anything for that matter, you should at least know something about it, because obviously, you don’t.


Feminism is not a movement that was intended to force men into submission by women. It was not meant to create the means for women to bash or abuse men, using them as if they were inferior creatures. It was certainly not established so that women could whore their way to the top.


Feminism was a movement in which to bring equality to the genders and establish women as more than just objects to be had.


It began as actions taken in the late 19th century in order to fight for the privileges that had so far been denied to women. Before then, women were not allowed to secure an education, they were not allowed to vote, let alone participate in any political or business endeavor, and they were most definitely not allowed to speak their minds. There was a time where women were not allowed to even leave the house without a man accompanying them. Women who advocated doing any of the above were made into social outcasts and miscreants. We were fighting oppression.


You talk about the conflict and suffering many women went through and are still going through as if it were petty nonsense, as if they were idiots, inferior to your own great thinking powers. Obviously you have never had to fight for anything. People took the risk of ruining their entire lives to give you the freedom to bitch about how things are done, and you sit there with the pretentiousness to wave it off like a bothersome fly. “Oh, feminism was a stupid idea.”


Well, let me tell you something. I would love to see you go into a country where women are still being oppressed and try to get to the top of the social ladder by whoring yourself around. When they find your dead body along side some street, battered, broken and used, we’ll know how successful you were.


What you have described in your post is an insult to feminism. Using your body to gain something is near kin to prostitution. I can’t even believe that you have the nerve to suggest this, after women fought for decades so that you could live your life without the limitation of being considered as nothing more then a sexual object.


The rest of us don’t need to sell our bodies to get to the top. We use our intelligence, self-confidence, and most importantly, our integrity to help make our way in this world. We certainly don’t need to bash men or deceive them by using sex to make ourselves feel better or to gain a place in society.


After all of this, I almost find it a shame that your father hadn’t chosen to sell you off to the highest bidder like a piece of meat at an auction. Maybe then you would have learned to appreciate what you have.

 
   

 


 
 
paiged2 on
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Well said.

It disappoints me when I see women acting like sluts and prostitutes to get their way in the world. And it disappoints me when I see women thinking it's okay to do such things.

It disappoints me too when I hear men telling jokes about women only being allowed to work their ass in bed and to cook and clean. Trust me, dating a guy who graduated from an all-guy's school, I've heard them all. He knows they're wrong, but his brother and some of friends don't seem to think so. And whether they think they're just jokes or not, it's very annoying to hear.
EspritsAura on
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It's very dissapointing, as well as discouraging, because it's one attitude like this that can ruin another. I feel very sorry for any guy that ever crosses her path, and not only that, but I hope to god that this girl never raises any kids. People who think like this are the kind of people who raise kids to think that if a guy gives a girl anything in a relationship, she has to repay him in sex.

And then people wonder where abusive husbands and rapists come from. It absolutely disgusts me!

And don't ever let anyone give you any trouble! Don't be afraid to tell your boyfriend that you don't appreciate what his friends are saying. If they can't have the curtesy to knock it off, at least around you, then he shouldn't be bringing those kinds of people into your life.  Not only will this kind of "putting down" hurt you in the long run, it can hurt the relationship too. If he cares about your well-being, he'll make sure it stops. Remember that a relationship is never worth it of you're getting hurt.

Thank you very much for taking the time to read this and for the comment.

~Kira

paiged2 on
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No problem.

I don't tell my boyfriend I don't appreciate his friend's and brother's comments... I tell them myself.

But you know what... Telling them myself isn't gonna fix any problem. Because obviously somebody who thinks like that isn't going to listen to me. I think it requires one male to understand the problem and have the courage to let his associates know that jokes about women and all the rest of the issues don't cut it anymore.

It's not like his friends and brother are against women or anything and have a sole purpose in life to put us down. It's more like they throw the odd "women are only meant to cook and clean" joke out there to get on our nerves. And it all builds up.

Guys like that deserve a good swift kick in the nuts. They don't even deserve them.
EspritsAura on
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There are two reasons why I told you to tell your boyfriend instead of telling them yourself:

 

1) Obviously, the connection here is with your boyfriend, not you. Just because you are dating him does not make them feel like they have to listen to or respect you too. A lot of guys are under the impression that guys get “whipped” by their girlfriends when they don’t express things for themselves, and instead have their girlfriends speaking up while they just sit there quiet. Having you talk to them directly isn’t going to get you anywhere if you haven’t discussed it with him first and he is ready to lend you his support, and you know he isn’t going to give them any other impression just to save face. It might just cause more trouble.

 

2) For the same reasons you stated, most guys who think that way to begin with aren’t going to listen to anything a woman has to say anyways. It’s good to have a guy point out these things too.

 

This is also the reason why I think it’s good to let guys in on the feminist movement, while others don’t agree. The point wasn't to exclude them anyways, I think that would be going to the other extreame, which isn't any better.

 

And really, I’d like to think that in the long run these kinds of thinkers will get what’s coming to them.
paiged2 on
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His friends are my friends too, we all met at the same time and such and all hang out together. And although I like to think so, my boyfriend isn't quite outspoken enough to change their attitudes on such a topic. In some ways I'm more assertive than he is. That's why I'd rather speak to them myself, even if it's not enough to make them change.

Hehe and I like to think that too... One day they lose one hell of a girl over an issue like this.


 
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